falling apart

What if we regarded falling apart as part of the plan? Seeing it that way is a major redefinition of what the plan really is, isn't it? It's not your plan anymore, not the plan of an individual self making its way in the world. It's the plan of a universe expressing itself.

In that kind of plan, which is closer to reality, the experience of falling apart is not only normal, but absolutely inevitable. Everything that comes into being falls apart shortly afterwards. I do and you do and everything does that we take to be independent.

The truth is nothing is independent. How could it be? Everything arises from total dependency and returns there, and remains there all along. When something seems to fall apart, it is simply dispensing with the illusion that it was something to begin with.

The same is true when you fall apart. When you fall apart, you are dispensing with the illusory portions of yourself. You are dropping them away. You are letting them go because they don't really work anymore. They have no value and you shed them.

Some people shed them reluctantly and some people don't. Most people do. Most people try to hold on for as long as they can before stepping away from what's familiar and moving into the unknown. It takes significant pain for most of us to surrender.

Why not add some understanding and make the process your friend? Falling apart is an important part of the plan, of life's plan. When it's time to fall apart, it's time to fall apart. Let yourself do it and find out what happens. The results will surprise you.